Bad Advice, Good Advice – Part 2In Part 1 of Bad Advice, Good Advice we took a closer look at the real wisdom behind dressing casually on a first date (good advice) and not shaving your legs (bad advice). In Part 2, we will continue with words on money on dates. The Man Should Pay As ancient as it is pervasive, one of the oldest ideas in the dating book is that the man provides and the woman enjoys. While it always feels good to give something to someone that you like, is it truly one sex’s responsibility to pay for everything? Kind of. The relationship between money and any relationship is going to be a many splendored thing – everything from subtextual power dynamics to superficial desires are going to be in play. The first part of dealing with money and who pays for what in your budding romance is to be up front about it. Is it awkward? Yeah, probably. But it’s worth it in the long run to be out in the open about fiduciary obligations. All of that said, you always want to go into any first date ready to pay for the entire thing in cash. Particularly men who are, by and large, expected to pay. This is important because if you should be called upon to chip in, you are able to and without the aid of a credit card. Cash is also your ticket out of any situation regardless of who drove (just take a taxi). So always go into a date with at least $40 and you should really have more like $100. Always Bring Protection Not to be confused with “always use protection” always bring protection attends most often to the old condom in the wallet situation. A few words on condoms in wallets: 1, they expire. So don’t treat the condom in your wallet like the ground nutmeg in your pantry – make sure to be proactive with its date. 2, they’re dangerous. Condoms in wallets tend to do two things most often, they provide unmistakable indents in the leather and they fall out. Neither is going to help you on your date all that too often. 3, they leak. Condoms are little bits of lubrication wrapped in a very rip-able package. The slightest rub can tear them open and leave them gushing badness all over your cards and pictures. You can buy condoms at most every gas station, super market and convenience store in the Western World. Save yourself the hassle and the worry, just go buy them if your date seems to be going well. They don’t even have to know that you are doing it – just run into a little store, get what you need and run out (that would be informal run rather than the “sprint” run). And if you really feel like you must bring a condom with you, get a little three pack and keep it in your jacket or car. Read the next installment of Bad Advice, Good Advice for more pieces of prevalent dating wisdom splayed and skewered. |
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