Dealing with Fear of Rejection

Having a fear of rejection can hinder you in many areas of your life, especially when it comes to relationships. The truth is that rejection is a reality in life and something that everyone will encounter. It’s not the rejections you will come face to face with that you should be worrying about; it’s your reaction to those rejections. You need to be able to face the thought of rejection without having it keep you from pursuing someone you would like to date. Here are some of the things that you can do which will help you to get over your fear of rejection:

Take a Realistic Look at Rejection

The first thing that you want to do is really look at rejection. You need to take a chance at rejection if you are going to have a chance for success. This means understanding that your life will go on long after you hear the word “No”. You need to be ready to hear that no and know that it doesn’t define who you are. Often times you will get rejected because something just isn’t right for you. In this way, rejection is a positive thing. It will keep you from falling into the wrong predicament. Open yourself up to the possibility that rejections can also teach you things about yourself. Being rejected by another person can help to show you things about yourself that you can improve. Start to look at rejection in a new light and begin considering it as a teacher and as a guide.

When you do come across rejection don’t let it get you down and don’t take it personal. Sometimes we tend to beat ourselves up when we get rejected in the dating field and take it as a sign that there is something wrong with us. Getting rejected doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you. It may just mean that the person who has rejected you was looking for something else and that’s fine. We all have things we want to find in other people and not everyone is going to meet our requirements. You don’t want to jump to conclusions and take rejection as an insult.

Have a Good Outlook Going In

It’s important that you have a good outlook when you go into pursuing someone. You should hope for the best but expect the worst. This way, you will be prepared no matter what happens. You don’t want to get ahead of yourself and set high expectations because this can lead to you being devastated if you do happen to get rejected. Instead, set out with the mindset that you are going to have a good time and be open to whatever comes your way. Embrace the experience more than you do the end result of the experience. This way, you will have fun no matter what happens and you won’t take things so personal.

Be proud of the person you are and never let anyone cause you to second guess who you are or what you stand for. Face rejection without letting it get you down. You know who you are and being rejected from someone should never let you change the way that you feel about yourself.

Move On

When you get rejected you need to shake it off and move on. Don’t be stubborn and get in a frame of mind that you need to change their mind. You shouldn’t need someone else’s approval to make you. Also, if a person doesn’t see the good in you then you should cut your losses and look for someone you are compatible with and stand a good chance with. You may feel as if changing a person’s mind about you will prove something to yourself. However, this is a negative thing to do and may lead to you changing some things about yourself in order to get their approval. Instead, set your mindset to finding someone that appreciates you for who you are and stick to your convictions. This is a much healthier attitude for you to keep.

Once you get over your fear of rejection you will see that it will be as if a whole new world has opened up to you. All of a sudden you will have the courage to go out there and try new things, this includes meeting new people. If you get to the point where you can take the rejections and turn them into positives then you will see that they will help you grow even more as a person. There is no doubt that being rejected can be a horrible experience. However, if you practice looking at the positives of rejection then you will make your life a lot easier and you will become more excited over new experiences.