Making a Good First Impression

First impressions take on added significance when dating online because it’s so easy for people to simply move on to the next profile. If your profile sends out a bad impression, potential matches can easily click on the “next” button and find someone else. There are many advantages to online dating, but this is one of its greatest challenges.

Once you get past the initial screening process, you also have to make a good impression the first time you make contact. This part of online dating can also be challenging, but it’s not as difficult as just getting people to notice your profile. Once you have initiated contact, you can tell pretty quickly how well you and the other person might get along.

Upload quality photos of yourself

The photo is the first thing other people see when they are browsing their search results or looking at matches in their inbox. Your profile picture should be clear and show you in a positive manner. A picture of your face is good, but so is a picture of your whole body. If you have photos in which you are doing something interesting or unique, that’s even better.

It also helps to keep your photos classy. Pictures of you double-fisting Bud Lights or running down the street topless are not going to attract favorable matches. At the same time, don’t go overboard with classy; you do not need to wear a tuxedo and top hat to look like a nice, normal person.

You can read more about making quality photos in our how to create a quality profile picture article.

Create a good dating profile

Your dating profile serves as the first introduction between you and potential matches. This is the first thing people read about you so it has to be a pretty decent profile. Try to keep your profile lighthearted, positive and favorable. Avoid a dating profile that is listed with negative things such as your pet peeves, a long list of expectations or negative things about your life.

Honesty is of utmost importance in creating a good first impression. Avoid lying in your profile because it will eventually come back to bite you. Even if you get away with your lie at first, lying can retroactively ruin any positive impression you may have made. And besides, you would be surprised at how adept people are at detecting lies in profiles. Being honest is just as important for your own sake too, because you want to attract the types of people who are compatible with the real you.

For more tips on this subject, check out our how to create a good dating profile article.

First Contact

The first contact is another important part of making a good impression on an online dating site. Whether you are reaching out with the first contact or replying, it helps if you come across as a normal, sane person. It also helps if you can avoid very generic openings such as “how are you?” The best first contact attempts are those that mention something specific about the person’s profile or that ask an unusual (but not creepy) question.

It also helps to keep things lighthearted at first. You do not want to come across to strong by writing poetry or stuffing the first e-mail with compliments. Just be natural and be yourself. There are thousands of tips out there for making first contact, but the main thing is that you initiate contact online the same way you would in person.

If you are sending the first message, try to think of a unique or witty subject line in the e-mail. There’s nothing inherently wrong with a simple “hey” but it’s so played out that it’s easy to get lost in the shuffle. Send your match a witty subject line and that person will be much more likely to open your message and reply to it. Don’t go overboard with this, though. If you can’t think of anything witty, just keep it simple.

Your Username

Your username isn’t a big deal as long as it’s not completely creepy. If you choose a username like PatrickBateman666 or HungLikeADonkey, you’re going to have major problems getting people to talk to you. A witty username works wonders, but a generic username isn’t going to kill your chances. A little common sense goes a long ways in this area.