How to Get Her Back

Having the woman you love walk out of your life can be devastating. Once you get over the initial shock you will find one question keeps coming to mind, “How do I get her back?” You don’t want to just lie down and give up but sometimes it can be hard to know how to go about getting back the woman you lost. Here are some things that you can do to win her back:

Fix what’s Broken

Until you take steps to fix what broke in your relationship you won’t have a chance to get her back. You need to address the issues first so she knows those issues won’t come up again. So, get to the bottom of what went wrong and fix those things as much as you can on your side.

If the lady you love has walked out on you then the last thing that you want to do is to freak her out by not giving her the space that she needs. You should give the both of you time to digest what has gone wrong and go over things in your head. She will need a bit of time by herself before she is going to be open to what you have to say. While you don’t want to disappear completely, you do want to show her that you respect her feelings and give her space.


It’s very important that you put a heartfelt apology out there. Let her know that you are sorry for your part in the wrongdoings. When you apologize you want to be specific so she knows you understand where you went wrong and that you have given a lot of thought to things. Be sure your apology is real and don’t just say what you think she wants to hear, the chances are that she will see right through this and she will only be pushed further away.

Ask her to meet with you to talk about things. If she is completely closed off to the idea still then you want to give her more time. However, once you convince her to meet with you to talk about things you want to start off slow. Choose your words wisely and don’t revisit the argument or topic which led to the two of you splitting up. Instead, you should tell her how you feel about her and how the thought of losing her has affected your life negatively. Listen to what she has to say and let her guide the rest of the conversation. You won’t want to rush her and make her feel cornered. See if the two of you can come to a plan on how to repair things so you can begin working on getting back together.

Work on Yourself

Be honest with yourself about your shortcomings and work on them. It’s not only about getting her back, but it’s about keeping her once you get her back. The only way for you to do this is to offer her more the second time around than you did the first time around. See yourself through her eyes and recognize some of the things about you that you would be better off working on and changing. This will not only help you to get her back but it will help you to become a better person at the same time. Once you begin improving yourself you won’t need to point what you are doing out to her, she will see it for herself and it will be more meaningful if you don’t point these things out to her.

Realize how you are different now than how you were when she fell in love with you. In what ways have you changed or let yourself go? Do some soul searching and think back to how you were when she fell for you and try to incorporate those little things back into your life again. We all tend to let ourselves go a little bit once we get comfortable in a relationship. However, the real trouble comes from letting yourself go a little bit too much or letting yourself go in areas that are very important to your partner.

Let her know that you aren’t going anywhere and that you are determined to win her heart back. Take steps to make her feel special. Point out why the two of you can still work and show her that you are determined. Once she sees the improvements and changes that you have made she will know that she can count on you to do what it takes to keep her this time. Keep in contact with her and let her know you are thinking of her often. Go out of your way to capture her attention by sending her gifts or writing her caring letters.

Appreciate Her

A woman needs and deserves to be appreciated. Not only should you appreciate her while you are trying to get her back, but you also need to appreciate her for as long as you have her. The minute you stop showing her that you appreciate her you will lose her forever. You can’t assume that she knows how you feel about her you have to constantly be showing her or telling her.

Now that you have lost her, you need to take the necessary steps to get her back. However, the main focus of your goal should be getting her back for good and this means taking all of the necessary steps to ensure that you are inviting her back for something more special than before. If you really put in the work and you are committed and genuine then you may find yourself extremely happy with the end result.