How to Regain Someone’s Trust

Losing your partner’s trust is a very easy thing to do. However, gaining it back is very hard and takes a long time and a lot of determination and hard work. When you have lost the trust of the one you care about it will change the relationship you have with them in many ways. At times you may wonder if you are ever going to be able to regain their trust. The truth is that this will depend on you, your partner, and the circumstances that led to them losing trust in you to begin with. If you feel there is a shot and you are dedicated to regaining their trust; then here are some steps you want to take:

Start with Honesty

Once that trust has been broken, you will have a lot of amends to make before you can even begin working on fixing things between the two of you. The very first thing you need to do is to start off on a clean slate. This means telling your partner anything else that they should know so you are able to begin moving forward. This is the time when you want to be completely honest and get everything out in the open so that you can move past your mistakes.

Be clear to your partner what your motives are. Let them know that you understand you broke trust and this is something that you understand is going to be difficult for them to get over. Let them know that you are determined to win back their trust and you plan on doing what it takes. Have a good talk with them about their feelings about the issues between the two of you and really listen to what they say. This is how you will learn what things are important to them and how you can go about helping them to trust you again. They need to know you are going to listen to them and take their feelings serious. It is also crucial for them to hear it come from you that you plan on fixing things and how you plan on doing this.

Be Understanding and Have Accountability

Before you can regain someone’s trust you need to understand how you broke it. This isn’t always a black and white thing. Sometimes you really need to look at yourself and your behavior. You need to admit to yourself why you did what you did, see how what you did was wrong, and imagine how it was for your partner to go through what you put them through, imagine how it made them feel and put yourself in their shoes. If it has been you on the receiving end of the betrayal, how would you feel? What would your partner need to do in order to regain your trust? Answering these questions will help you to have a clear understanding of all that you will have to do in order to start regaining trust back from your partner.

The first part of regaining trust is showing that you are willing to do what it takes. This means proving you are going to be upfront and open no matter what. The whole process will take time and there are going to be ups and downs. You will have periods where you feel as if you aren’t getting anywhere with your partner, but as long as you keep trying you will make breakthroughs along the way and hopefully you will be able to put the past in the past and enjoy your future together.

Don’t Mess Up

This may sound harsh but when you are trying to regain someone’s trust you have no room for error. You have already caused them to lose trust in you once and you are in the process of trying to prove to them that they can trust you again. If you do anything to jeopardize losing more trust at this point then you may as well give up all together. You need to be on your best behavior and think through everything that you do. It’s better for you to live a certain lifestyle then to pretend. If you aren’t going to be able to live by your partner’s terms for the long haul then there’s really no reason for you to keep trying to regain their trust. However, if you made a mistake then regain their trust and continue being trustworthy.

Trust is a very difficult thing to get back once you lose it. If you are lucky enough to work through trust issues once and regain your partner’s trust you will need to be very careful in the future. You probably won’t get another chance if you mess up again. Trust is the most important thing in a relationship and it should be taken serious.