General Dating Tips

The topic of “general dating tips” could fill up a thick book, but we have a few ideas that you can keep in mind when dating. Dating can seem like a complicated game at first, but it’s not so bad once you get a little practice and see firsthand how things work. If you’re in need of some basic dating tips, this article will point you in the right direction.

1. Do not seek happiness from others

This is the most important dating tip of them all. It also happens to be the one that people mess up the most. Go figure. What this dating tip means is that you should not base all your happiness in dating other people. You first need to find happiness within yourself. When you learn how to be happy as a single person, you become a more attractive dating partner.

When you are happy with yourself, you build a life of happiness that doesn’t suck the life from future dating partners. Instead of burdening your future dates with keeping you happy, you are instead letting them into your life. You now have something to offer other than obligation.

Being happy with yourself accomplishes two things: first of all, it’s healthy in a psychological sense. Nobody wants to spend significant portions of their life down in the dumps. Happiness is a good thing. Secondly, it makes you more attractive to the opposite sex. Work on your personal life and kill two birds with one stone.

2. Don’t take rejection personally

I know, I know, this one is easier said than done. But seriously, rejection is just a part of life in general. There are billions of people on this world and the odds of any two people bumping into each other and instantly clicking forever is rare. You have to work at it to find the right person for you. Don’t feel bad if you are rejected.

There are a couple of good things you can take from every rejection. First of all, be content in the fact that it wasn’t meant to be. If it would have been the perfect relationship, then you wouldn’t have been rejected in the first place. Something didn’t fit. Cut your losses and move on.

You can also treat each rejection as a learning experience – but you have to be careful with this one. Ask yourself if you came across too strong, too distant or whatever and keep that in mind for the future. However, it is possible to take this principle too far by worrying constantly about what you may have done wrong. Sometimes other people are just weird and don’t know what they want.

In any case, you’ve got to learn how to brush it off. If you’re never getting rejected, you’re not getting out there enough.

3. Be observant

Watch people who are more successful than you at the dating game. Notice how they talk to the opposite sex, what they talk about and what kind of nonverbal cues they send. Even if you feel like the world’s most hopeless introvert, there are certain things you can learn from other people that will help you deal more successfully with the opposite sex.

Just remember that “successful” doesn’t necessarily mean whoever gets laid the most. Successful can include anyone who deals easily with the opposite sex, manages to find meaningful relationships and so on. There are different types of “success” but not all of them are equally satisfying.

4. Take care of your physical appearance

Yes, the inside is what counts but a nice physical appearance will help you get your foot in the door much more easily. Get a gym membership and keep an eye on your daily calorie intake. Basic health isn’t as difficult as it sounds – it’s just a long term commitment to your overall health. Not only will a healthy body make you more attractive to the opposite sex, but it will make you feel more confident, it will boost your immune system and it may even lead to a new hobby.

Pay a little attention also to your clothing and haircut. Get yourself a clean look and make sure your clothes look decent. You don’t have to be trendiest fashion expert, but it helps if you know better than to wear an all jean jumpsuit to the first date.

5. Always be working towards new goals

The opposite sex is attracted to ambition. You don’t have to be the most well-off person in the world, but it helps if you display a little ambition in life. As long as you are always working towards new goals in your life (including your career), you won’t have a problem getting other people to take you seriously.

6. Find hobbies that you truly enjoy

Hobbies are good for your dating life for a few reasons. Most importantly, hobbies are personally satisfying. Having passions such as hobbies makes you a happier and more confident person, which in turn makes you more attractive to the opposite sex.

Hobbies also make you a more interesting person to be around. You have things to talk about when you meet men/women. Hobbies also provide more balance in your life. When you have passions that are your own, you do not come across as clingy or available all the time. And finally, hobbies themselves can be good ways to meet other people.

7. Practice

Get out there and date around, even if you feel unconfident. Practice takes away much of the mystery involved in dating. Practice also helps you become more comfortable in dating situations and helps keep all your social gears lubricated. If you go a long while without dating someone new, you can become a little rusty. Just get out there and keep trying.