Dear ODS: My Sister’s HusbandDear ODS, Hello, I am one half of the head of a happy family here in the south of America. We often go out as a family, myself, my husband and our children with my sister and her husband. My sister is content in her marriage but her husband often gives me the impression of romantic feelings. Should I speak with my sister concerning her husband? Thank you, Standard Mama Talk Dear Standard Mama Talk, Glad to hear that you all are a happy family. So first of all, I’d have to see it myself to know. It is possible that your sister’s husband is hinting at something, potentially even crossing the line into outright disrespect…I’d have to see it in person to know. Generally speaking, brothers and sister in law have it tough in terms of those sort of lines. They are of the same age and thus, same romantic zone. They know each other for years, are not collected by blood or choice – it’s tough to know the right way to behave around an in-law. So I tend to give a few extra allowances for bizarre in law behavior just because of the many variables. Let’s just say for a second that he is crossing the line. That he would sleep with you and carry on a secret love affair yesterday if given the chance. OK, so your sister has married either A) a super scumbag, B) someone who is so sex-crazed that they would be dumb enough to hit on their sister or C) a man who has fallen in love with you. So there’s your first answer/question, Standard Mama – which of those 3 categories does this man fall under. If it is A, then I’d sure think that your sister deserves to hear that. Mind you, in as respectful, quiet and dignified a manner as was possible. Alone, extraordinarily private and in a loving supportive way. That’s if he’s a scumbag. If it is B, then I’d begin by talking to the husband. Give him the chance to own up for his mistake by going to your sister first. Because if he really does have a problem then the right thing to do is to give him a chance to save himself. If it is C, then figure out whether or not you love him back. If the answer is yes, talk to your sister. If the answer is no, talk to your sister. And finally, I’m not all that too sure something is going on. The way you announce your family’s happiness and sort of chastity…I don’t know, something’s not sitting with me too well. Find a reason to be alone with the in-law and if something definitive happens, then you can move forward. Otherwise, keep this to yourself because I’m not all that too sure it’s real. To ask ODS a question of your own, simply address your question to Dear ODS at contact@onlinedatingsites.org. We cannot promise we will answer every single question, but we will do our best to cover as many as possible on the column. |
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