Dear ODS: World of Warcraft WeddingDear ODS, I am a troll! Haha, no I am though. I am a troll priestess on WoW (ODS note, WoW is World of Warcraft, a popular online video game) and I am getting married to a friend of mine, he’s an orc rogue – I just love those badboys! We’re getting married in the game and it’s stupid I know but he’s the most important person in my real life. I don’t know if he has a girlfriend or whatever but he’s from Canada and I’m in Tennessee and I’d like to meet him in real life. Not like marry him right away but we kind of love each other in WoW so what do you think? Pwnage! BarrackasBizatch Dear BarrackasBizatch, I am almost always struck by the first sentences in these letters from our readers. Yours’ is no exception. The first thing you say is that you are a troll. Then you sort of duck the emotions surrounding that with “haha” and then you’re into your story. So before I get to the advice on dealing with your online hubby (and there is plenty of advice on that – although I don’t think it’s what you expect to hear) here’s some advice for you on you: You are not a troll. You are not a loser. You are playing a game and that is OK. If you want to stop playing the game and you don’t know how, you can get help. I don’t buy the whole addiction is a disease thing (swine flu would be a disease, addiction would be a habit or behavior) but I do believe that we all get into situations that we need help getting out of. If video game addiction therapy would help you, then give it a shot. Life is not a fixed thing – you can always change your course no matter how insurmountable the seas seem to be. Part two, and on to your husband. There’s not really that much difference between meeting a guy playing a video game and meeting him on eHarmony.com or even the grocery store for that matter. Meeting people is a random thing, it just sort of happens and then we go from there. So I’ll give you the same advice I give to anyone looking to move from online connection to real world romance – start with Skype. Get on a video chat and see how that works out. If you talk for a little while and still feel connected (give yourselves some time on Skype, it starts weird for everyone) then think about a visit. And you guys being married on a video game is a great place to begin a conversation – you two share a common interest! Appreciate yourself and the habits you’ve got… you may have come across someone who wants you just the way you are. To ask ODS a question of your own, simply address your question to Dear ODS at contact@onlinedatingsites.org. We cannot promise we will answer every single question, but we will do our best to cover as many as possible on the column. |
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