Are you holding out for Miss or Mister Right?I may have badmouthed men in the past, saying most are “saving themselves for Gisele Bundchen,” but the truth is women are not a lot better when it comes to expectations. It seems that we belong to a deluded generation, who will settle for “nothing but the best” while expecting potential partners to put up with our many “charming quirks.” I say it’s time we all woke up. I have seen way too many profiles of men who seek “the full package: beauty, brains and personality” while they themselves are nothing to write home about (sorry boys, but it’s true,) and I have yelled at enough male friends for turning down perfectly nice girls just because they were a little overweight. Women are no better when it comes to pickiness, and we also have impossibly exacting standards for a man’s height, career or emotional intelligence; I’ll admit I am even guilty of turning a man down because of his terrible taste in shoes. And so, as we seek love – or at least companionship – in real life and online, we sabotage out quest by setting impossibly high standards for our mates-to-be. Just look at these very real examples, copied verbatim from a popular online dating site:
Number 2 gets it right: that’s what everybody wants! Of course every man would love to date Halle Berry, just like no woman in her right mind would refuse George Clooney; but the reality is that both Berry and Clooney have the entire world to choose from, and they will choose a partner that is as beautiful, talented, famous and wealthy as they are. Odds are that you, like me, do not quite fit that description: we are normal people going about normal jobs, we rate between 5 and 7 on the hotness scale, we have a few bad habits and a lot of loveable qualities and we all want the same thing: to find someone who loves (or at least really likes) us for who we are. So what can we do? Let’s get real. Gentlemen, stop demanding physical perfection from your potential matches unless you have a six-pack and bulging biceps. Instead of ignoring every girl who is not a total stunner, try looking out for an attractive girl with a sparkly personality, with whom you can have fun and be goofy and feel like a right hunk. Ladies, give normal guys a chance. Stop daydreaming about a fire-fighting, poetry-writing, puppy-loving Olympic medalist and consider all those goofy looking guys who’ve sent you interest messages; one of them may be the one who sweeps you off your feet with his personality, sense of humor and skills in the kitchen! Do not be the person who ends up alone and bitter because they were saving themselves for Miss or Mister Perfect. Open your eyes and your mind, and maybe you’ll find that someone – flawed and quirky, like all of us – who will love you exactly like you are, warts and all. |
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