How to Play Matchmaker – Part 3In parts 1 and 2 of How to Play Matchmaker, we went through everything from the difference between support and smothering to the importance of honesty. In Part 3, we’ll rundown a list of some qualities that you can identify in different people that indicate potential chemistry. Style over Substance When identifying the qualities in someone that you think would make them a good match for another, begin with external style. Yes yes, the long-term health of the relationship is going to be much more shaped by the internal than the external – but you can’t match people up for the long-term. All you can do is put people in front of each other who may hit it off. After that, it’s up to them. A great place to begin is in basic clothing style. If your brother is a goth and you run across a cute single goth, go for it. Preppy goes with preppy. Jock goes with jock. Go for matching up looks, that’s where most successful match-ups begin. Forget Profession One of the worst places to begin a match is in like professions. Just because your best friend is an accountant, that does not mean that you have to set them up with the next available accountant you meet. Think about it, how many people who work inside of your profession do you find yourself attracted to? Be Aware of Redheads During the conversation that you should have with the loved one that you are setting up BEFORE you set them up (we talked about this in Part 2), you should also talk about any major likes that they have. Are they way into redheads? Do they like shorter guys? Big into butts? What are some attributes that this person is turned on by. Playing matchmaker can be a great way to get your loved ones new loved ones and have some fun in the process. The biggest danger here is in over-stepping your bounds and becoming a nuisance rather than an ally. One further way to avoid that is to be honest with yourself. Are you trying to set up your loved ones because you are unhappy yourself? If that is the case then deal with those feelings before you go headlong into helping someone new. Not only will you not be able to actually help them – you are going be further digging yourself into a hole. Because the first rule of the successful matchmaker – you cannot be single yourself. |
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