Is Love Necessary? – Part 1No one knows what love is. There are a million descriptions of it; I’m sure you’ve heard some of them: “Desire wants to get, love wants to give.” “Love is knowing all about someone and still wanting to be with them.” “Love is saying ‘I feel differently’ rather than ‘you are wrong.’” No one knows what love is. Which is not to say that love does not exist, in fact, for our intents and purposes we are going to say that love definitely exists. 100%, no ifs, ands or buts – there is such a thing as love. Still, no one has any idea how to describe it for its own intrinsic values (and if you think that you can describe love once and for all, go ahead and do it for us at contact@onlinedatingsites.org) The question is, is love necessary to your life? And we’re not talking about that sort of love of life, “I love the sky” type of love. No, we’re talking about good old requited love of a person. Is it necessary to your life? Let’s take a look: Does Love preclude Partnership? The first sub-point here is the notion of partnership. After all, Meatloaf let us know that he “wants you…needs you… but there ain’t no way [he’s] ever gonna love you… now don’t be sad, two out of three ain’t bad.” If you look around the world, there are plenty of loveless marriages. Lord knows that the participants may not be happy, but they are still married and supported in some way by each other. What about arranged marriages? The two most populous countries in the world (China and India) are peppered with millions of marriages where neither party ever even met. Gold diggers find husbands everywhere. And we may not be able to put our finger on exactly what love is, but I think we’d all agree that gold diggers and arranged marriages are never rooted in mutual love between husband and wife. Which isn’t to say that both parties cannot grow to love each other, anything can happen. But in terms of partnership, love does not necessarily come first. Does Love solve all Problems? If we’re going to bring up Meatloaf in one section, we better bring up the Beatles in the next: “All you need is love,” right? Of course, this one seems silly when we start to apply it to specifics: love won’t pay the heating bill nor will it cure cancer. In fact, if you’ve ever been in love, you know that it can be very scary and often overwhelming. Sometimes the only thing that we can think when we are in love is “God, I wish I wasn’t so in love – this would be so much easier!” Read Part 2 of Is Love Necessary? for a deeper look at the use of love. |
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