Long Distance Relationships – Part 1
The only thing harder to do than find the right person, is to hold on to the right person.
Existence gets in the way of life at times. Never is that more apparent than in those dreaded stretches of your life when you will be engaged in the dreaded long distance relationship. Those times when you are in one zip code, your lover is in another and you are all sorts of bent out of shape about it.
But with a little bit of planning and our handy dandy guide, you can surmount that distance and maintain your love through an extended period of geographical separation.
Let’s get to it:
Don’t Cheat
- Number one on the old “How to keep your long distance romance together” is a common number one on the old “How to keep your regular distance romance together” list – don’t cheat. Not only is it disrespectful and an off-handed way to slap someone in the face, ultimately, it is going to make you feel more alone. After all, once you’ve cheated then you can’t tell your partner the truth. Once you can’t tell someone the truth, you’ve got a major secret. Once you’ve got a major secret, you can no longer be entirely in the moment with someone. And if you can’t really be with someone when you are with them, then why waste your time with being with them?
- Of course, you still need to get your rocks off. But with your honey out of town, how do you fill the bill? Not to get too graphic, but you should have a healthy sexual relationship with yourself. If you have a tough time with this one for whatever reason, here are a few tips: 1, set the mood with music, lighting and scent – if it feels like sexy time, it will be sexy time. 2, root your fantasy in a real moment – it’s going to be rough to follow through if you begin your fantasy in the sex room of a sky palace with a young Marlon Brando. Go back to a real moment you had through your day or week and go from there. While it’s nice to fantasize about your distant lover, don’t sweat it if you find yourself thinking Antonio Banderas or Angelina Jolie. Your sexual needs are your sexual needs and as long as you do it by yourself, you don’t need to explain yourself. Which isn’t to say you can’t get a little help from your far away baby… sexy calls, emails – you two can be sexual together without actually sharing a bed.
Read Part 2 of Long Distance Relationships for more on how to keep the flame alive when you two are apart.
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