It may be sad, it may be a comment on the post-post-modern human condition, it may be a cool socio-techno evolution, but the fact is
Facebook.com = life.
More people connect, stay connected, get jobs, lose jobs and find things to do on Facebook.com than through any other social network in the history of the world. That’s how it is, and you’re either on it or you are in passive revolt against it – but it is not possible that you are unaware of it.
So for the next few weeks, we here at Online Dating Sites thought it might be a good idea to discuss the role that Facebook plays in today’s romantic world. How it can be used to help you find love, how it can be abused, how it works with ex-lovers – how Facebook.com fits into today’s romantic world.
It’s a Social Networking Site… not a Dating Site: First and foremost, Facebook is about keeping people connected – not about bringing people together. This is a subtle distinction that a whole lot of people need to realize (particularly people who may have had crushes on you in the past and are looking to worm their way back in). Which is not to say that Facebook cannot find you love; it can (and with our help, it will), but it is primarily a tool for socializing. Chemistry.com is about dating, Match.com is about dating, JDate.com is about – you get the picture. So the first pointer in the Facebook.com world is to understand where Facebook is coming from. And it’s coming from a place of friendship.
Status Over-Reaction: Very few of the non-married people in the world fall neatly into the single and not-single categories. One person’s definition of dating may be another person’s definition of seeing or flirting… or maybe friends with benefits. Some single people are holding their breath for a specific single member that you, unfortunately, just can’t compete with. Don’t be put off by someone’s relationship status on Facebook.com – even people who say that they are in committed relationships. Often times, people (women in particular) will attempt to thwart the floodgates of interested/desperate facebookers trawling for “single” members. Think of it like marriage rings on waitresses – if you like the person, engage in an actual dialogue with them and see where it leads. If they are actually in a relationship, they’ll tell you. If they aren’t, then you’ll find that ring comes off quite easily… and there are no tan lines beneath.
Read Part 2 of The Great and Powerful Facebook for more do’s and don’ts in the growing world of Facebook romance.
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