The Great and Powerful Facebook Part 6

In the previous installments of The Great and Powerful Facebook we looked at everything from appropriate Facebook messaging to appropriate amounts of time to be spending on the social center of the universe. In Part 6, we’ll continue our look at moving from a digital relationship, to a real world one.

“Give me a space and I’ll give you a stage”

Peter Brook

Life gets heavy. Between the grind of daily life, the size of the world, the size of us as individuals, life gets heavy. Sometimes we begin to live as though we are more caged than we imagine.

So it is with hitting on people. Yes, hitting on people. Whether in line at the grocery store or chatting online, sometimes we feel the weight of where we are halting the pursuit of what we want.

It is with this in mind that I say, your desires can always be appropriate. This is not to say that you should drop your pants in the office, but that with tact and respect, you can always go after what you want without causing problems.

Let’s continue our look at moving towards a real-life relationship from facebook with that in mind – it is always OK to go after what you want.

Set the Tone

So you’ve established some common grounds and a consistent stream of communication, now how to get this thing going?

Time to set the tone with some direct but unbinding communication. What you are looking to do here is get your friend out on a first date with you. Naturally, the two biggest issues you face going into a first date are about the future, namely, what if the date fails and what if the date succeeds. Both possibilities should be addressed. Here’s how to do it:

  • Failure: Addressing failure is a matter of taking major consequences out of the equation. Letting your date know that no matter what happens, you’re still interested in them as a friend and person is of the utmost importance. Dating someone is about opening up and we all want to know that you are not going to run laughing away from us. Don’t talk it to death, but let the other person know that there is nothing to fear even if you two don’t work out. Let’s look at two examples:

GOOD:
Can’t wait to go see the show with you… at the very least, we’ll have fun!

BAD:
Everything is going to be perfect tonight.

Note that the Good one is good because it both looks forward to the shared evening AND takes the pressure off. The Bad one, while sweet, is chalk full of pressure. And as a sidenote, what does perfect even mean?

Read Part 7 of The Great and Powerful Facebook for more on setting the tone going into a first date and specifically, how to bring up the role that potential success could play.

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