What Not to Say in Your ProfileMeet sora72, a gorgeous 25 year old architect based out of Ontario, Canada. sora72 has listed herself on the Spark Network Z-specific super-site, Greek Singles Connection (and let me tell you, lucky for those Greek guys out there too!) But sora72 is making two big mistakes in her online profile: First and foremost, the bubbly Canadian has selected the dubious “I’ll tell you later” option for her Looking For section. First rule of online dating – know what it is that you are looking for or you will end up pulled in fifty different directions. I’m not saying you have to know 5’11”, brown eyes, swimmer but not a diver… but you should know if you are looking for something casual, something longterm or anything in between. Secondly, the profile. Let’s read: “Try me. I’m a bubbly person but can be a naughty one at the same time. I go for men who can indulge me into fun stuff especially in the world of romance…together we’ll savor every moment that we have and hopefully enjoy new things. According to our own handy dandy “What Men Make of What You Write” segment we can see that a man will come across this and notice a few things: First, that’s a looooooooooong sentence with a lot of lower case letters – men see immaturity there and potentially, someone who could be bullied a bit. I don’t mean physically, but bullied in the sense that this is someone who would go along with whatever we wanted to do. Second, this profile is dripping with sexual subtext. From “Try me” all the way to “naughty something something savor something something new things something something wink” I am a man and I am seeing a woman who is looking for sex and not much else. Which is fine… but then what is this doing on a Z-specific site like Greek Singles Connection rather than a sex site like Passion.com? My guess is that coupled with the “I’ll tell you later” and a series of her-face-only photos, that our heroine sora72 is NOT in fact looking for a physical affair with not much else, rather, she is looking to be herself and find someone to be herself with (and probably be a bit of a princess to a man as well). Unfortunately, the way her profile is set up right now sets her up to attract men looking to dominate situations, get some action and be off on their merry way. Sora72, you are a beautiful young woman, obviously successful as evidenced by your architect position BUT you are selling yourself short! First off – don’t be afraid to be open with what you want. Second, you don’t have to try and attract men with subtext – we see you and you are already plenty attractive enough. This other “Try me” stuff opens yourself up to things you probably aren’t looking for. Of course, if I’m wrong, and you are just looking for sex, then at least get yourself on the right site! If you’re not sure which site is right for you, check out our three types of sites page here: Good luck sora72, I have a feeling you’ve probably got a lot of guys clicking on your profile – I sure hope you find what it is that you are looking for. |
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