Women: How to get the best results from your profile pictures.Men are visual creatures. If you are a woman into online dating I bet you read men’s statements carefully; check out their height, profession and religion; and maybe even take into consideration their Zodiac sign. We’re like that. But men are visual creatures, and this means they will make their decision about you based mainly on your pictures. To be fair, they will of course take other aspects into account, but the main part of the first impression will be deciding if they like what they see. I should know – I have coached many male relatives and friends on their online dating quests, and the first question is always “what does she look like?” So what do you look like? How can you make the best impression on those eligible men out there? First things first: take fresh pictures! This is important for you, right? Then make an effort and take some nice new photos instead of just using the ones from last year’s office Christmas party or your sister’s wedding 5 years ago. If you don’t have a digital camera try to borrow one, or ask a friend who has one to take a few pictures of you. Most webcams and mobile phone cameras do not take pictures with high enough quality, but if you really have no other choice then make sure you are as well lit as possible. And ask someone to help you with the picture-taking or use the timer function – photos of your reflection on a mirror scream “I have no friends!” which is not very flattering. Whatever you use to take your pictures, take as many as you can. Try different smiles and poses, cock your head in various angles, wear your hair up and down, try a few different tops in several colors. If you have 20 or 30 options to choose from, you are more likely to get a lovely image of yourself that will catch the eye of a man or three. Next: use a mug shot for your profile picture. I recently read that men are more attracted to women who make eye contact and smile than to those who don’t, regardless of how attractive they actually are. Make this work in your favor by making sure the first thing he sees is a bright smile and fetching eye contact. Now let’s talk about the full body shot. Most sites will let you upload several pictures, and at least one of them should feature you in all your beauty; your potential matches may worry that something is amiss if you do not include one picture of the whole you. Choose a picture where you are wearing something flattering – that dress that your friends always compliment, or your favorite jeans and top – but not too revealing. You’d be surprised at the sheer number of outright cleavage shots that get posted out there, and even more shocked at men’s reaction to them: delete, delete, delete. Sportswear is OK but bikinis are not, and be very careful with fancy outfits and costumes: do you really want people to think you go around all day dressed like Sexy Goldilocks? If you get a chance to post even more pictures, it is a good idea to show you in action. Choose your most flattering holiday picture, or one where you are doing something you love. Do you cook, garden, jog, play tennis? Do you have a beloved pet? A flattering picture of you doing your favorite activity may help entice men with similar interests. Caveat: party pictures can go wrong easily, so try not to come across like Lindsay Lohan in the wild days. Remember: these photos will be seen by people who don’t know you, and whose only impression of you will come of these few images. Make an effort to take some nice new pictures, put your best face forward, and soon your inbox will be full with potential suitors! |
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